Last Updated: Wednesday, July 22, 2020

Taking care of you - friendships - primary

What is this?

These activities encourage your child to understand that friendships are good for their health and wellbeing, and also the health and wellbeing of others.

For children in nursery and P1

  • Talk with your child about their friends. Talk about how they met and what they enjoy doing together.
  • Ask your child to draw a picture of their friends. Together, write lots of words to describe why your child likes their friends.
  • Talk with your child about when friends fall out. Acknowledge that it can be upsetting. Check with your child that they know they can always talk to you, or identify another person they can speak to, if they are upset.
  • Talk with your child about how friends can make-up after a fall-out. For example, forgiving each other, saying sorry, agreeing to disagree, or remembering how much they usually get on.

For children in P2/P3/P4

  • Talk with your child about friends. Ask them to make a list of all the things they can think of that makes a good friend. Now ask your child if they think they are a good friend? Have a conversation based around this. What do good friends do for each other? Why do children need good friends?
  • Together with your child, create a friendship tree. This is a tree whose leaves and blossoms capture everything about how to be a good friend. Draw a big outline of a tree on a piece of paper. Together, create leaves and flowers that can be glued onto the tree’s branches.
  • On each leaf or flower encourage your child to write or draw whatever they want to about good friends and friendship. For example, who are their good friends, what makes a good friend and what a good friend does for others. Perhaps your child could ask a brother/sister or a friend to create a leaf or flower to add to the tree.

For children in P5/P6/P7

  • Ask your child to think about what a friend is. Have a discussion together. ‘How do you know if someone is your friend?’ ‘What kinds of things do friends do together?’ ‘What do you like about your friends?’ ‘What do your friends like about you?’ ‘What makes a good friend?’ ‘Where can we meet and make new friends?’
  • With your child, make a ‘friendship face’. Ask them to draw and cut out a face-shape in the middle of a piece of paper. It should be big enough to frame your child’s face if you hold it up. With your child, talk about what kind of friend they think they are.
  • Next, all around the face-shaped hole ask your child to write all the characteristics that your child thinks they have as a friend. Explain that there are many positive characteristics a friend can have. For example, ‘I share things’, ‘I am kind’, ‘I tell the truth’, ‘I am brave’, ‘I am funny’, ‘I let people join in’, ‘I listen to my friends’, ‘I am polite’, ‘I am honest’, ‘I encourage others to do well’, ‘I take turns’, ‘I am helpful’, ‘I like that we are all different’, ‘I am serious’.
  • Talk with your child about their ‘friendship face’. Are there any other characteristics that they would like to have as a friend?